Today, we're gonna be talking about how to meet up with a girl in person over text. Let's say you get this girl's number from like a bar or maybe you're out during the day or from tinder or wherever; it is okay how do you meet up with his girl in person.
Now, a lot of guys will over complicate things by thinking they have to have a mad text game or thinking they have to say something funny every single time or think you may have to be like the most alpha guy, 'No!' Just remember the basics, you're trying to meet up with this person and it only takes four steps and they're super basic.
1. Figure Out Her Schedule
The first thing to do is to find out what she's doing that week, you could just say - " Hey, what are your plans for this week or what are you up to this week or what's your schedule like this week ". This is totally a reasonable thing to be asking and once she tells you her schedule, you can find a spot where you guys are free.
What this eliminates is that it's gonna eliminate the amount of No's that she'd get if you say you want to go out with her and every if she says " No " or " I'll let you know ".
If the more " Nos " that you get, the more likely it is, she's gonna say no in the future and if you're constantly asking her out, obviously this is kind of a needy place to be, so we want to reduce the amount of " Nos " and the way we do that is we get her schedule. So, find out a date that's free for the both of you, let's say she's free on Friday and you're free on Friday.
2. Pick A Time And A Location
This goes with the first step and once you figure out her schedule for the date, and you guys are about to go out and you say - " Hey we're gonna meet at this bar at 7:00 p.m. on Friday or we're gonna meet at this event it starts at 9:00 on Friday ".
Picking a specific date and time is good because a lot of guys come up with these vague statements like - " Hey, let's hang out or hey we should get a drink sometime ". Those are fine but it just stays in these vague statements because they're waiting for the girl to do too much.
If you constantly put in these vague filler statements, she's probably gonna make plans with somebody else or she's gonna make plans with a guy who is gonna make actual specific plans with her. The number one complaint that most women say is that the guys never make any definite or concrete; so she's kind of in limbo and if you're spending time doing this and she doesn't know where the texting is going and it should be going to meeting up. She's gonna lose interest and she's gonna go with a guy who is gonna be on that sort of thing.
This is not the idea of a high-value guy, a high-value guy has things going on in his life and he needs to pick a definite time for people because he's got going on, he can't constantly be just saying these vague statements and hoping people come around.
3. Follow Up During The Week
Once you've done that, you need to make sure that you're following up with this person during the week. If you make plans on Monday and your date is on Saturday and you show up and you haven't sent her any messages during that period of time, she's not showing up.
So, make sure that you're confirming one or two times at the most and the rest of the time you're just kind of like maybe sending or something funny that happened to you that day like - "Hey, this happened to me blah blah blah or how is your week going, cool all right we still on for Saturday, perfect ".
That should really all it all would be but basically, you're staying in her mind you're letting her know that you plan on showing up and you're going to show up, and if she knows that, then she's more likely to show up as well.
4. Text Her The Morning Of
On the morning of the date, what you would do is send her a quick message saying - " Hey, I'm gonna be five minutes late cuz I have to run to get some groceries, or maybe my meeting might run a little long ". Whatever it is, just let her know that you're gonna be five minutes late, no one is gonna cancel a date over five or her person being five minutes late.
What's gonna give her the opportunity to do is - " Oh yeah like I can't make it or sorry like I knew something came up, I can't make it ". If she wasn't interested to meet up, she'll say something like that and that way you don't show up on the date and you know feel like an idiot, what it also does, it's also a more high-value thing, you don't want to show up on a date with a girl that's kind of on the fence or a girl that's like not really into it and it's just doing it because she either doesn't want to feel bad or because she's just like she made plans and she feels like she has to stick with him.
That's basically it for today's tips and those are 4 steps to set a date through text. If you found that post helpful and informative, don't forget to share and comment down below.
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