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5 Steps To Have Sex With A Girl On The First Date - Pillar Advice




Today we're gonna be talking about how to bring a girl home and have sex with her on a date because too often we see guys that are going on dates with girls that are really into them but they just don't know what to do to make things happen.


So, if you're one of those guys stay tuned because we got five steps that are gonna give you the best opportunity to meet, attract, and then eventually seduce a girl that you're out on a date with and be able to hook up and have you guys have a good time.




1. Pick A Location That Is Close


The one thing you need to do before the date even happens is you need to pick a location for the date that's close to the place that you want to bring her back to. So, if you want to bring her back to your place, pick a location for the date that's really close to where you live.


For example, put it within walking distance five-minute walk is great, even if it's just down the block, that's even better but if you don't live in a big city maybe a five to ten-minute drive would be the best thing for you. If you can't bring her back to your place like you got roommates or you live with your parents or something like that, try and pick a spot that's near her place.


If her place is a no-go like you guys are in high school or something like that then maybe pick her up in your car and then from the date drive to like to pick a spot that's near a good lookout or it could like Vista point or something like that or maybe even a parking lot.



2. Pick A Seductive Location


For the date, don't be taking her out to some that's brightly lit where there are families all around and kids running next to you. Pick a date that's a sexy pickup spot, maybe a little bit more dimly lit with some cool music.


That's going on maybe like on some loungy area, that's classy with like good design and stuff like you pick a spot where they serve drinks because sometimes, especially if it's the first date, you know people get a little nervous and alcohol can calm their nerves a little bit, but pick a spot that sexy man. Don't be picking a spot that's like not gonna put people in the mood.



3. Position Yourself For Physical


The next step is to position yourself in ways that allow you guys to start touching each other. So, if you're sitting across from each other on a table, it's gonna be very difficult for you to start touching because you got to reach over the table or something like that you have a barrier in between you guys.


A better option is to try and sit next to her whether it's at the bar or maybe there's an empty seat next to her, here you can come near, this is gonna allow for if you just even sit next to her your knees might accidentally touch or something like that or you can get closer and position yourself or you can say - " Hey, let me check out some of your jewelry " or something like that and then you can touch your hand. It's gonna be a lot more difficult to do that if there's a barrier between you. But if you're sitting right next to each other or you're standing right next to each other or you're close to each other, there's a lot more opportunities for that to happen.


Now, when you are trying to get things going physically or physically escalate, see how she responds, so when you sit down next to her, is she coming closer to you, is she backing off or is she kind of staying there and if you come closer how was she reacting, is she's staying there, is she coming more into you or she backing away maybe give her some space for a little bit but if she's coming closer to you or if she's staying there, then you're free to keep going a little bit but you can also flirt and maybe like take your hand and throw it away or you know it have fun with it but you want to be physically escalating things because if you do want to have sex with someone, sex is a physical activity and if you don't get things started physically, it ain't gonna happen.



4. Lead Her Back To Your Place


If you've been going and been doing things well, and you've been touching each other, you guys are like making out or whatever at the bar. Yes, not every girl likes to make out at the bar, some girls don't like PDA but if she's coming closer to you and she's obviously really enjoying you being closer to her in her space, then it's time to bring her back to your place or wherever you guys are gonna hook up.


If you are a beginner, what you gonna do is to have an excuse, the reason why because when you're bringing someone back to your place, you need to say it with authority and you need to be confident, don't be like - " Would you, maybe like to come back with me, it's okay if you don't but like would you"?


And that's not gonna make her want to come back. She's gonna feel weird, she's gonna say no, but if you say things with more authority, then it gives you the opportunity to do that. Beginner guys aren't gonna know when to say - " Hey, let's come on, let's get out here ". What you wanna do is have something for you to do at your place that is going to be not associated with you guys hooking up, something platonic that you guys can do.


So, like maybe you have a nice bottle of wine at your place that you want to show her, maybe you have some artwork you'd like to show her, maybe you have like some music that's cool, that you think that she'd like whatever it is you could say - " Well there's this really cool bottle of wine that I bought that I think you'd like, we can have a glass and then I'll take you back home".


Having a time could straight to can help as well because sometimes she's gonna be nervous, she's gonna be like - " Well, what are we gonna do, like what's gonna happen after ". A lot of these thoughts are making her nervous and uncomfortable, you can put them aside by telling her that you're gonna do this and then you're gonna take her home. If things don't go too according to plan, you're still gonna end up at your place and you're still gonna be safe and you're still gonna be comfortable.


If you have been touching her and you guys have been making out a whole bunch and you've been all over each other and you can't keep each other's hands off each other, then you can just say " Let's get out of here " and that's usually fine which is usually what you should do, don't make excuses because girls usually know what's going on.



5. Make Sure She Is Comfortable


This step is kind of related to step number four and that makes sure she is comfortable, when she comes back to your place as soon as you lead her in the door or maybe if she's going to her place, don't try and have sex with her as soon as you shut the door; wait a little bit, maybe have that glass of wine, talk to her, wait for her to get comfortable.


If she's in a new environment that she's never been in with a guy that she doesn't know very well but maybe might be attracted to and still wants to hook up with, she's not gonna do it unless she's feeling okay and comfortable with the whole situation. So, the way you do that is you kind of let her settle in, let her get comfortable, and then afterward, you can start touching her but if you guys have been like all over each other like you can't keep each other's hands off each other and you're basically almost having sex.


Before you get in the door, you need to get down to business right away, there's no reason to wait. When it comes to the part where the clothes are actually coming off and you guys are about to have sex, it is recommended that you take off your clothes first. That way you're kind of leading things and then do whatever she's comfortable with; if she's not comfortable having sex when she doesn't want to, she's not ready whatever the reason is, don't sweat it, man.


There's plenty of fish in the sea, do what she's comfortable with, we find that guys who are the least secure about their sexuality get the angriest in the sort of situations. So, don't be like that ironically coming from a purely selfish standpoint, this will give you the chance of actually getting laid in the end is if you don't freak out, you're not angry or you're not trying to pressure her, do anything that she doesn't want to do.




That's basically it for today's tips and those are 5 steps to have sex on a date. If you found that post helpful and informative, don't forget to share and comment down below.

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