If there is a time for women to be more susceptible to a boyfriend, it's now. Which means we're giving you the resources that you need to make the move. We're gonna go into the root cause of why it's so hard for us guys to talk to girls, why sometimes you'll stare but you'll never make a move, and yes at surface level, most of you probably think it's fear or you lack the huevos and to an extent, it is that, but there's so much more. Today we're gonna go through that so you can flip the switch and get the girl you want.
1. Stop Obsessing Over Your Words
The first reason why you just can't talk to girls is you obsess over the words, so many guys avoid going up to the girl because in their minds they say they have nothing in common or they have nothing to say. So in their mind, they think - " I'm just gonna make a fool of myself ", but what if we told you that the words you say it's not even the most important part of any interaction.
Instead, you really need to focus on your body language, the nonverbal part, like your smile, make sure you're not fidgeting, make sure you're relaxed that you can slow down your movements and you're not talking fast. And also make sure that you're not nervous and your eye contact is strong and piercing. Master these and we promise you, it doesn't matter what you say, there's gonna be interesting.
2. Don't Misinterpret Her Body Language
You misinterpret her bottling, it's ingrained into all of us and it's a form of communication. So many guys start picking up all these little subtle signs and start assuming which you will start making an ass of yourself and because of those assumptions, they don't approach thinking they already know the answer.
Examples of some of these signs are - arms closed off or eyebrows tense, maybe these are just natural body movements that she does that when she's comfortable. So her face could just be her natural resting face and it's your job to go in there break the ice and find out another one.
3. Properly Motivate Yourself
When we're talking behaviorally, anytime you do something is because you have a motivation, you have a goal for it to talk to the girl and most of your motivation sounds something like this - " Man I need to talk to this girl because if she dates me, she's gonna make my life better " " I should just sleep with her, she looks so good " " Man I would look so cool dating her, she's hot " " I just don't want to be single, I look like a loser ".
Think about it as if you're in a gym, and you're about to hit your PR (Personal Record), you're the cockiest guy on the planet in your mind, you're thinking you're a beast and that you're gonna make this weight your girl, that nobody can stop you and it's all mind tricks, it's all just getting the proper motivation because you will never go up to that deadlift bar and start thinking - " Man, I'm never gonna lift this man, if I could only lift this, I'd be such a cool dude". As soon as you do that, you fail.
4. Have A Good Sense Of Style
You're just a mess not mentally but physically because you're literally sweating bullets and you're stuttering and you're tripping over yourself and you're a mess. The point of this post is to help you with all these aspects, so you're no longer a mess, so for the sweat, the easiest way to fix is that just wear an undershirt.
Now you don't need to worry about her noticing that you're sweating bullets and that you're nervous, you're still gonna sweat but there's not gonna be any disgusting sweats things that are gonna mess up your style you want to look as good as possible.
5. Don't Be So Hard On Yourself
You're just too hard on yourself, again you have to be a little bit cocky in your head, you need to build yourself up and not tear yourself down, you should be your best cheerleader but sadly for 99.99% of guys, we aren't, we're actually our best critic. We critique everything about us and especially when we're about to make such a bold move, we start nitpicking all the bad things about us that by the time we get there we're a nervous wreck, we're awkward as hell and you just avoid the whole situation overall.
That's why you end up staring but you never approach, instead be your best cheerleader, think about all your best attributes, think about that one time you got that compliment that made you feel on top of the world; keep that feeling lock it in and make a move, that's how you win.
That's basically it for today's tips and those are the top 5 reasons why most guys can't approach women, if you guys liked this post and found that informative don't forget to share and comment down below.
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